Sometimes adoption is a "forgotten option" simply because people may not realize how much adoption has changed. Deciding whether to parent, or release your baby for adoption, is a hard choice. The only way to know what is right for you is to listen to all the information on both subjects and then make your own informed choice.
What is Adoption?
Placing your baby to be raised in a loving, stable home.
The permanent legal transfer of all parental rights from one person or a couple to another person or couple.
What is Open Adoption?
You personally select the best adoptive family for your baby and meet them, if you wish. You can receive pictures and information to know what your child's life is like as he or she grows up. You and the adoptive family can decide together what future relationship you want to have.
Would adoption mean I don't really love my baby?
No, the courage it takes to put your child's well-being ahead of your own needs comes from the deepest love you could possibly have for your baby.
Am I shirking my responsibility if I place my child for adoption?
Not all birthparents are emotionally ready to parent a child. They cannot teach their child what they have not yet learned. Not everyone has the financial capabilities to care for a child. If the birthmother is pushed into parenting, it is the child who will be the one to suffer.
What about afterward?
You will never forget your baby. Pictures and letters will help you deal with your feelings. Post-adoptive counseling is available to help you deal with grief.
